Finding Peace in the Gray Areas

🌫️ Finding Peace in the Gray Areas

✨ TL;DR

Balance isn’t a fixed state. It’s a rhythm that changes day to day.
Especially for neurodivergent folks, energy and focus arrive in waves.
You’re not failing when you shift, wobble, or need rest.
The gray areas, the in-between moments, are where real life happens.
Let go of perfection and honor your humanity.

Balance sounds good in theory.
But for many of us, especially neurodivergent folks, it can feel more like a trap than a goal.

We're told to chase the perfect mix of work and rest, productivity and play, social time and solitude.
But what if that version of balance doesn't really exist?

❓ What If You're Not Failing?

If you’ve ever felt like you're swinging between extremes, like being super productive one day and completely wiped the next, you're not alone.
That pendulum swing is often part of the process.
It’s not proof that you're broken.

🧠 Neurodivergent Rhythms

For people with ADHD, autism, or trauma-influenced nervous systems, life doesn’t move in neat, equal parts.
Energy, focus, and emotions arrive in waves.

Some days, you clean the whole house.
Other days, brushing your teeth is a win.
Both are valid.

🚲 Balance Isn't Static

Balance isn’t a constant state.
It’s a dynamic rhythm.

Like riding a bike, it’s about small adjustments as you go. Not staying perfectly still.

💡 A Real-Life Example

Let’s say you planned to meal prep on Sunday. You didn’t.
But instead of takeout, you grabbed cheese, crackers, and baby carrots.
Not the “balanced meal” you imagined…
But not a failure either.

That’s the gray area.
Not the ideal. Not a collapse.
Just a creative middle path that worked for that day.

The more we honor those choices, the more resilient we become.

🌀 What If We Stopped Chasing Balance?

What if we stopped aiming for perfect days?
What if we honored the gray areas, the messy, in-between, totally human parts?

Your life doesn’t have to be symmetrical to be meaningful.
You don’t have to be good at everything every day.

☁️ Some Days Look Like This:

✔️ You lean into rest
✔️ You ride a wave of momentum
✔️ You just get through. And that counts too.

Let go of perfect balance.
Embrace the rhythm.
Honor the fluctuations, the shifts, and the very real needs you have.

Because that’s where life actually happens.
It happens in the gray areas.

🤍Heather

Updated: 7/30/25